Waarom zijn er zoveel vooroordelen ten opzichte van non-humans in District 9? Blijkbaar is niet iedereen het eens met de policies van Multinational United dat dit district en de rest van Johannesburg managet:


(van http://www.mnuspreadslies.com/)

Labels: non-humans, viral

Deze is cute. Een casual spelletje waarin wat je tekent tot leven komt.


Crayon Physics Deluxe from Petri Purho on Vimeo.

Labels: videospellen

Deze lessen van Ryan For Real heb ik ook geleerd of wil ik nog leren :)

Well guys, it’s been an intense year… 60 flights, 34 cities, 16 countries, and a lifetime of experiences encompassing the highs, the lows, and everything in-between… What’s the lesson behind it all? What did I learn in a year? Below are my 8 biggest takeaways from 2008.

1.) Happiness is not found, it’s grown into.

2.) You are more than enough – show it…Loudly. Always strive to be even more.

3.) Give generously and genuinely to those around you. Whether they reciprocate or not is irrelevant.

4.) Set goals and work towards them. Recognize the journey is always more rewarding than the arrival.

5.) Cognitive dissonance is key – treat yourself like you value yourself and the world will follow your lead.

6.) The Self Is Always Shining Through – people are more intuitive than you like to think. People will always see the truth in who you are… luckily who you are is entirely in your control.

7.) Polarity is the great balancer – be willing to be disagreeable and standoffish when the times call for it… all of your emotions are relevant, don’t feel like only some of them are acceptable.

8.) Above all else look to yourself. Go First – don’t ask for permission to do or be what you want. Be the beacon that others can look to as well. Whether they do or don’t is irrelevant… a lighthouse is always there shining regardless of whether anyone’s watching.

Best wishes to everyone and thanks to all who made 2008 possible. I can only hope 2009 holds a candle to this past year.

Happy New Year,
Ryan

Labels: geluk, inner game, ryan

Conversatie die ik laatst had met een moeder:

Ik: Ik zou nu echt niet aan kinderen willen beginnen.
Zij: Tja, soms denk je wel hoor: waar ben je begot aan begonnen?
Ik: Dat ik neem wel aan.
Zij: Ik heb er totaal geen spijt van, ben er heel gelukkig mee, maar je kan je niet inbeelden hoeveel invloed dat heeft op je leven.
Ik: Zo stel ik me dat wel voor, ja.
Zij: Ik had dat vooraf zo niet verwacht.
Ik: Ik weet niet, dat klinkt eigenlijk exact zoals ik het me voorstel. Heel je leven draait nu rond dat kind, en hoewel je daar wel enorm veel vreugde uit put, zet je je eigen leven daarvoor wel op stop.
Zij: Ja, inderdaad.
...
Zij: Misschien is dat waarom je er niet aan begint: jij beseft te goed wat dat inhoudt :)
Ik: Ja, ik had net dezelfde bedenking :)

Wim

Labels: kinderen

Dit is prachtig! Je kent ondertussen Steve Pavlina misschien wel, de schrijver die ik al jaren volg omwille van zijn baanbrekend commitment naar groei op alle gebied in het leven.

Ik had al langer zo'n gevoel dat alles niet helemaal klopte... Steve heeft zo'n hoog bewustzijn op andere gebieden als zaken, voeding, spiritualiteit... Waarom is dieje pee niet polyamoureus??? It didn't make sense to me.
Hij is zelf 15 jaar getrouwd en heeft twee kinderen. 2009 wordt blijkbaar voor hem het jaar van relaties. En bam! in zijn eerste post daarover schrijft hij dat hij poly gaat!

Super, dat gaat hem zeker verderbrengen in zijn leven!

Veel van wat hij schrijft resoneert heel sterk bij mij, het is alsof ik het had kunnen schrijven. Zeker dit stukje over liefde geven:

Sharing love and connection is my main motivation for wanting to experience other intimate relationships. It’s not about trying to get something from other people. I don’t feel I’m coming at this from a place of neediness, at least not in the sense that I need something from other people.

What I’m feeling is that I have this massive energy source of love inside me, but I lack the channels to fully express it. I want to let it flow, but all I’m doing is keeping it bottled up. Some of it flows into my relationship with Erin of course, but there’s still more to give.

Sharing emotional intimacy is great, but I’ve felt stunted by my inability to cross the physical intimacy border and take the sharing of love and connection to a much greater level. I think some amazing things will happen by dropping that limitation from my life.

Obviously I can share love through writing, speaking, and talking with people. However, my most natural manner of expressing love is through physical intimacy, especially touch. I give Erin massages all the time. If I see her sitting on the couch, it’s hard for me not to start squeezing her. When we go to bed at night, I usually massage and cuddle her first. Sometimes I play a game to see how much massaging she can handle before she’s so sleepy that she asks me to stop. We also have sex pretty often, especially since I know how to put her into a receptive state. A foot massage always sends her to la-la land. :)

But I still have the capacity to share more attention and affection than Erin can receive. If I give out as much as I feel inclined to give, she eventually starts rejecting it. Consequently, I always have to hold back. Some of this desire for expressing affection gets channeled into my writing, which is a way for me to reach out and connect with lots of people, but since that medium is a mismatch for physical intimacy, I often feel stunted trying to express love through the written word.

Why can’t I just become a massage therapist on the side and touch people all day long? That wouldn’t be appropriate because in my case, sensual touch leads very naturally to sex. I’d have a hard time holding back. Touching, kissing, massage, and sex are all part of the same bundle in my mind.

Physical and emotional intimacy go hand-in-hand with me. I’m not exactly sure why, but it’s hard for me to separate the two. A physically intimate relationship with a woman would make me feel very connected with her, and I’d automatically want to connect with her emotionally as well.

I’ve no idea how easy it will be to follow this path, but at least I know that others have already done it, so hopefully I can learn something from them.

I’d never want to do anything deceptive, so I wouldn’t start a relationship on false premises, like by pretending I’m a single guy. I’d need to find women who could understand my situation without going kittywompus. I have to imagine that somewhere on this planet, there must be other women who are open to exploring physical and emotional intimacy without major hang-ups and possessiveness issues… hopefully ones who like being massaged a lot.

Ook wat zijn vrouw Erin schrijft in de opvolgende Q&A vind ik inzichtrijk:

Is there some fear? Yes, there is some fear. My ego is having a field day with this one. “What if he finds someone he likes more than you?” “What if he stops spending time with you and the kids?” “What if someone comes along who takes him away from you forever?” Knowing it’s my ego talking to me, I can say back to it, “I know you’re trying to protect me from a future pain that you think is coming. I love and appreciate your desire to protect me, but there is no need. I will not dwell in fear.”

I took some time to connect with my higher self because I was more interested to hear what she had to say than what my ego had to say. We had a lovely conversation. Here is what she expressed to me:

Love is boundless and expansive. It should not be contained. It is not meant for love to live in compartments, but to be shared openly and honestly with all. The more that love is shared, the greater the unity among you. Marriage is a man-made construct, like religion or language. Anything that constricts love is not in alignment with oneness. You can never be diminished when love is shared. Indeed you are diminished when love is controlled or when you try to own another’s heart.

Later schreef ze ook op het forum: I know better than to take a decision based on fear.

Dit alles sterkt mijn geloof dat polyamorie een natuurlijke evolutie is op het ontwikkelingspad van ieder mens. Wel, om precies te zijn, de evolutie is inzien dat we onnatuurlijk bezig zijn.

Wim

Labels: pavlina, polyamorie

Ik sta op mijn klif, uit volle warme borst lachend
want blij, verrast, door de vlammende kneedbaarheid van het Leven dat ik voel
Leven dat ik gewoon aangeboden krijg!
Leven, dat zich begerig en gewillig nestelt in mijn handen, klaar om gesponnen te worden,
door de brandscherpe focus van Verlangen
Boordevol macht
Overvloeiend van macht
Druipend van macht
Leven mijn vriend en rivaal? Wij dagen elkaar graag uit, weet je }:-)
Ik ben Leven en Leven is mij.

Het stukje van het Universum dat soms Ik heet is terug perfect gealigneerd met de rest rondom, als een kompasnaald in een oceaan van kompasnaalden. Perfect in harmonie. En hoe kan het ook anders?

...of is het net andersom? ;-)

Labels: inner game, intentie-manifestatie, leven, tom yam